Your phone starts ringing.

You look down. It’s your friend who talks and talks and talks.

You sigh. You are in the middle of work and do not have the bandwidth for their emotional dump.

Instead of picking up the phone and saying you are unavailable, you let it go to voicemail.

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A friend of yours lives nearby.

They assume you don’t mind giving them a ride when you go out together.

But actually, you do mind.

You just don’t say anything about it because you don’t know how.

You become more resentful each time you pick up your friend and feel like you can’t leave when you want because you’re their ride home.

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If either of these situations sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

I am breaking down why it is hard for us to talk true (as I like to say), where we learn to dishonor how we feel or what we want, the consequences of staying silent, and the steps you can take to be more authentically known by the people in your life.

Grab the free guide for this episode here: https://www.terricole.com/talktrueg...

Time Stamps
0:00 Introduction
2:15 Why do we struggle to tell the truth about how we feel?
5:19 Client example: checkin before emotional dumping
7:26 Friend example: lending car & no gas fillup
9:09 Looking at this learned behavior
10:50 Setting healthy boundaries
13:40 Learning the truth is embarrassing
15:50 Conclusion

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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary BossThe Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stayathome moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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