Are you a generous giver in relationships?

Do you give from your heart? From a place of love?

Or are you a little more titfortat, where you expect something specific in return for giving?

If you answered yes to any of these, or you recognize these patterns in your relationship, this episode is for you. I break down the difference between relational unions (more heartcentered) and transactional unions (more quid pro quo).

I also give you steps to become more balanced between the two because you do not want the pendulum to swing too far in either direction.

If you are too relational and do not have enough discernment (me when I was younger!), your feelings might get trampled on. If you swing over to transactional, you probably think about yourself too much.

Let’s dive in.

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Time Stamps
0:00 Introduction
3:12 Differences between relational & transactional
5:25 Examples of relational relationships
6:22 When a relational perspective is harmful
8:19 Business relationships are transactional
9:24 What transactional unions look like
11:29 Traits of relational unions
14:58 Reasons why we're relational or transactional

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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary BossThe Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stayathome moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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