This week Dr. Annie Zimmerman is a psychotherapist, author and social media sensation sits down with me to unpack why we struggle in relationships.

00:01 Understanding your attachment system is essential for understanding your relationships.
01:47 Annie Zimmerman focuses on how past experiences impact present relationships
05:43 Babies develop attachment styles to ensure positive attention from parents for survival and security.
07:54 Attachment styles in adults are influenced by their experiences as babies.
11:44 Babies learn to regulate emotions through parent soothing
13:50 Anxious attachment styles stem from early experiences and affect the ability to regulate emotions and reactions.
17:48 Navigating anxious attachment in relationships
19:27 Understanding and processing attachment styles for healthier relationships.
22:58 Therapy is about shifting and changing your relationship with yourself, not just finding solutions.
24:38 Approaching conversations with parents about the past
28:09 Moving from toxic to secure relationships can feel boring due to the absence of intense highs.
29:54 Toxic relationships can feel addictive due to inconsistent rewards.
33:14 Unconscious influences on relationship choices
34:51 Recognize and be curious about your behavior in relationships
38:13 Creating new neural pathways requires repetition and therapy cycles.
39:58 Childhood experiences impact adult behavior.
43:20 Creating space between triggers and responses for anxious individuals
45:01 Communicating needs and setting expectations in a relationship can ease anxiety.
48:08 Understanding the guilt associated with being always accessible and eradicating people pleasing
49:39 Understanding the reasons behind bad relationships is crucial for change

I learnt so much in this episode and found it to be so valuable! If you did too I would be so grateful if you could like and subscribe!

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