Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in longterm partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and familyoforigin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.


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“Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning” by Dr. Will Meek:


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“Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed” Up by Gemma Hartley (Harper’s Bazaar, September 2017):


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“I Live With a Woman—We're Not Immune to Emotional Labor:


How LGBTQ couples navigate gender roles at home” by Trish Bendix (Harper’s Bazaar, October 2017):


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Fair Play: A GameChanging Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:


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