When you say “no” to someone, do you often feel immense guilt afterward?

Or do you secondguess your boundaries after setting them?

I have seen a lot of my therapy clients sacrifice their boundaries due to guilt. But letting guilt sabotage our efforts to have healthy boundaries is a oneway ticket to Bitter Town.

Boundaries are meant to protect ourselves and our relationships. They deepen our connections. Yet, many of us still feel guilty for having and enforcing boundaries.

This episode is about deepening our understanding of postboundary setting guilt. I talk about what you can do to combat it, how to tell if it is actually guilt you are feeling, and when feeling guilty may be appropriate.

Grab the free guide that goes along with this episode here: https://www.terricole.com/stopfeelin...

Time Stamps
0:00 Introduction
1:30 What are boundaries?
2:09 Disordered boundaries
4:18 Is it actually guilt?
5:12 HSPs & empaths
6:00 Selfabandonment
6:50 Your relationship with yourself
8:25 Obligation
9:38 Demands are not boundaries
10:55 Dial into your intention
12:33 The Boundary Boss Workbook
12:57 Highlighting a comment

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About Terri Cole
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary BossThe Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stayathome moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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