Dr. Mariel Buqué joins the podcast to help us learn how we can heal from the past, create healthier patterns, and break cycles of trauma. Dr. Buqué and I talk about what intergenerational trauma is, how we can “hand trauma down,” and how these problematic patterns show up in the real world. We focus on what helps someone take the first steps, the key role of insight, and moving from insight to action. Along the way, Dr. Buqué shares the powerful tools that help people resource themselves to do the hard work of breaking intergenerational patterns.
About our Guest: Dr. Mariel Buqué received her doctorate in counseling psychology from Columbia University, and her work has been featured on major media outlets like The Today Show and Good Morning America. She’s the author of the new book Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma, and host of the podcast by the same name.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:05 What drew Mariel to this work
10:40 How Mariel thinks about intergenerational trauma
17:40 Common patterns of her clients
20:40 Most people’s initial motivation to find healing
25:40 Courage and vulnerability with the people in our family systems
34:25 Grounding, excavating the family tree, finding healthy alternative patterns
40:15 Practices for stimulating the ventral vagal nerve
44:35 Finding a way in to healing that is accessible to you
48:35 Creating an intergenerational trauma tree
56:00 Finding steadiness when the emotional floodgates open
59:05 The shortcomings of the western medical outlook
1:01:55 Integration, and creating a short buffer between stimulus and response
1:07:40 Values and healthy pride
1:10:10 Recap
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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the coauthor of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.
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