Inspiration: Williamson, Marriane (2008) The Age Of Miracles:Embracing the New Midlife Carlsbad, CA, Hayhouse Inc.

Letting go of someone we love is not easy, and it is painful, but I commend you for clicking on this video, because that means you have the desire to put the past behind you. It might be hard, but the desire is there. Only through letting go can you heal and grow as a person and to move forward in your life.
First, let me tell you that letting go of the person doesn't mean you stop loving them. People will come and go in your life, but your love for them never leaves you because love is eternal. Love is one of the things, if not the only thing that lasts forever. So accept it. That person will always have a place in your heart.
Second, you will still miss that person. And when that happens, allow yourself to miss the person, don't fight it. What you will find though, is that as you start to let go and go through the process of letting go, you will miss that person less and less. And you will find a new normal in your life.
One of my previous videos has been a stepbystep guide to forgive and let go, and in that video, I discussed doing an exercise called the relationship graph. The relationship graph can help you dissect and examine the past relationship in detail and see it for what it was, good and bad. For people who can't forgive and let go, it is because they hold on to, or mostly remember the unhappy or bad memories, their views about the relationship are onesided...In our conversation right now , your broken heart mostly is also onesided, not on the bad memories, but the good, happy memories. If you're thinking that that person is the most amazing ever and you had the most perfect bond, and everything that could have been is nothing but good, it is probably because your broken heart cannot see the big picture, the truth. Doing a relationship graph will help you see and acknowledge that there are unhappy and unhealthy parts in your relationship, one of the reasons that your relationship ended. I urge you to watch that video and do a relationship graph.
One more thing to acknowledge is that you are not the only one going through this. That other person is also going through the letting go process, just like you. Probably at a different level, but nevertheless, they are also in need of healing. Breakups are painful, healing is painful. It doesn't matter which side you're on. If that person broke up with you, just understand that he or she is trying to figure out love and life, just like you. We're all here, not only to survive and make it, but also to learn lessons about love, our own selves, and the world around us. And in your heart, you need to wish them well, that they heal, move on, and live an enriching life.
If you're the one who broke up the relationship, then you know how painful it is to turn your back away from a special bond because the pattern of the relationship or the pattern of the person is unhealthy for you even though you still love them very much. You cannot fantasize any longer... you needed to acknowledge the person as he or she truly is, and not as you wish them to be.
One of the greatest lessons of love is the gift of selfawareness. I believe we are paired up with specific people at specific times because it is only them who can teach us what we needed to learn at that point in our life. And sometimes, the only way to grow emotionally and spiritually for both parties is to let go, step back, and see life at a different angle. Maybe the only way for both of your souls to grow is to be away from that union.
But one thing for sure, you need to cherish the person, cherish the memories, and wish that person the best in his or her journey, as both of you move on in your separate directions.
I wish you peace and healing as you continue on your journey.