​When you are faced with a problem at work or in your home life, do you assume the responsibility of “fixing it’ all on your own even though there are other people involved? Or do people in your life come to you to rescue them when they are in a mess of their own making, because they know you will?

If you said yes to these questions, then you might be overfunctioning in your relationships. This video is all about how to recognize overfunctioning, understand the cost to you, and how to end this behavior.

In the video, I cover:
Characteristics of Normal Functioning and Underfunctioning
Characteristics of Overfunctioning
What Might Have Caused OverFunctioning Behaviors to Develop (Childhood, Parents, Etc.)
Negative Effects of OverFunctioning in Your Life (And Your Relationships)
How to Recognize and End Overfunctioning

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TIME STAMPS:
0:00 Introduction
1:05 What is "optimal" functioning?
1:44 What is underfunctioning? (How does this show up in family systems?)
4:45 What does overfunctioning look and feel like?
7:06 How do people become overfunctioning?
9:00 The cost of overfunctioning
10:47 Tips to stop overfunctioning

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ABOUT TERRI COLE
Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary BossThe Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free.

For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stayathome moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs.

She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/

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