Most of us have gone through a time in life when it felt like we were stuck: unable to deal with our issues, change in useful ways, or make our lives the way we wanted them to be. It’s often not for lack of trying. You read the books, you followed the exercises, you maybe even saw a therapist…but it just didn’t help. On today’s episode, ‪@RickHanson‬ and I explore why this happens and what we can do about it.

Rick shares a simple framework we can approach change through before I dig into the six key factors that prevent us from changing. We talk about selfacceptance and how we can relax our attachment to the current version of ourselves, before moving on to factors that affect motivation. We then discuss working with fears, becoming courageous, and leaning into a more authentic version of who we are.

Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction and disclaimer
1:15 What is and is not in our capacity to change
4:00 What works and doesn’t work in making personal change
8:35 Distinguishing what is true, and creating spaciousness from your experience
14:50 Holding onto an identity, recognizing your defenses, and trying new experiments
29:20 Tips for finding motivation and releasing feelings of guilt
36:10 Secondary Gains
46:30 Courage, boredom, and fear of the unknown
50:30 How our environment influences us
56:00 Taking inventory of what is already working, and getting new input
1:04:20 Authentically being you, surrendering to the best within you, and perseverance
1:07:20 Recap

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Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the coauthor of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth.

I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice.

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