Do you consciously believe you are worthy of being happy? What words do you reflexively use with yourself when you make a mistake? How do the people in your life treat you on a daily basis?
The answers to these questions will reveal your relationship to yourself. If you feel like you are unworthy of love or have a low opinion of yourself, you could be suffering from a selfloathing mindset. Selfhate can manifest in many ways. It can look like harsh, negative self talk or constant financial struggles from a deep sense of being unworthy of abundance. It can even manifest in you inviting the people in your life to take advantage of you. Selflove is crucial for creating a happy and healthy life. People treat you how you teach them to, so if you feel unworthy of kind treatment and consideration, you will inevitably attract people who are all too happy to agree with you.
The source of selfhate often begins in childhood. Circumstances like having an abusive (physically, verbally or sexually) adult in your life can result in selfloathing, as well as other childhood traumas or dysfunctions. However, selfhate is not a terminal condition, there are reasons why you feel the way you do about yourself, and there are ways to train your brain to turn negative, selfloathing thoughts into more selfloving thoughts.
In this video about turning selfhate into selflove, you'll learn:
What selfloathing looks like (low selfesteem, anxiety, financial struggles and bad relationships)
How your childhood experiences impact the way you feel about yourself as an adult
How selfloathing affects your life (wanting to numb your feelings, perfectionism, lack of selfcare, etc.)
Four easy strategies to transform your feelings from selfhate to selflove
Your low opinion of yourself is not your fault, and there is something you can do about it, but you have to be willing to do something different.
The time is now to commit to creating a loving, supportive relationship with yourself.
Download the free meditation that goes with this episode here: http://terricole.pages.ontraport.net/...
TIME STAMPS:
0:00 Introduction
1:30 How selfloathing shows up in your life
7:00 An example of selfloathing from a past client
11:10 How to be patient and gentle with yourself
12:01 Be mindful of your thoughts
13:06 Take stock of the people in your life and how they treat you
14:15 An exercise to tend to your inner child
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