Also watch "Deprogram the Narcissist in Your Mind" • Deprogram the Narcissist in Your Mind These 2 videos are an introduction to my forthcoming dialog with Richard Grannon.
Dissociation (pay heed: do not use the wrong word disassociation!) and objectification are at the core of separationindividuation around the ages of 1824 months.
Prior to the separation phase, the child is in a symbiotic state. He regards his mother as a part of himself. To separate from her, he needs to cut off this part and objectify it (render it an external object). He also develops transient grandiosity to be able to take on the world, all by its little self.
Narcissism is a failure of separationindividuation owing to a lack of boundaries between the child and his mother.
So, when the narcissist comes across a mother substitute (an “intimate partner”), he tries to recreate the ancient dynamic by forcing her to merge with him (absorbing her in order to eliminate her object status, her individuality).
He aggressively and grandiosely converts his partner into a selfobject or an object representation thus eliminating her ability to separate from him at least in his mind. He violates all her boundaries to negate her agentic autonomy.
I coined the phrase “narcissistic abuse” to describe this inexorable process.
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