• If The Narcissist was Honest...
If someone vulnerably and respectfully brings up a feeling (hurt, disrespected, lonely, neglected), it is our job as someone who loves them to take on the role of the listener, where we are curious to understand what happened to lead them to feel that way and validate their experience even if we don't agree with it. What we DON'T want to do is use this as an opportunity to voice our complaint or feeling at the exact same time. That's not validation. That's making everything about you, and your pain.
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