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Get ready for this episode of Women of Impact all about how to spot the charming, seemingly “nice guy” narcissists who are out on the hunt for smart and successful women like you to use and suck the confidence right out of!!
This interview will teach you how to take your power back so you don’t feel small, stupid, and powerless for years in an unhealthy and toxic relationship, and actually HEAL from the wounds so you don’t end up broken, full of shame, insignificant, and in the same toxic situation…again!
And today’s guests here to help with that are Stephanie Quayle and Dr. Keith.
Stephanie is a successful country singer, and her story is insaaaaaane! For 4 years, she was with a seemingly “nice” guy who actually had multiple secret lives while attending his funeral after his unexpected death! He was prolifically cheating on her and lying to her and she had no idea until she was at his funeral!
It wasn’t until she finally got professional help from experts in narcissism, like psychologist Dr. Keith, that she was able to begin to let go of the shame and break the cycle of toxic relationships!!
In this episode, we’re diving into:
The LIES you believe that keep you blindsided in your relationship
The warning signs he’s TOO nice and is actually probably toxic
The tactics they use to “clip your wings”, make you feel trapped and take away your power
How to escape the victim mindset and stop blaming yourself for falling for the charming, “nice guy” narcissist
3 strategies for coping with the wounds left from a narcissist so you can take ownership of your story, make a change, and actually HEAL
Why you need to seek professional help as soon as possible in these toxic situations to break the cycle
And what you can do to take your power back and actually UNLEARN all the shame, guilt, and wounds that have been ingrained in you
Hearing another woman’s story and experiences like Stephanie, and how she was able to heal her wounds and actually become better, stronger, and more confident than before is not only CRAZY inspiring, but actually changes lives!
When anyone is able to recognize their relationship for the toxic and unhealthy situation that it is, then they can actually DO something about it, and that’s what I want for you from this episode, homie!!
CHAPTER MARKERS:
[00:00] Being "the other woman"
❌ [7:49] The dangers of overlooked nonred flags
[30:57] Toxic relationship's impact on personal growth
[48:40] Earning trust & seeking help
❤ [1:17:18] Take responsibility & embrace imperfection
DR. KEITH & STEPHANIE’S FIRE QUOTES:
"But part of it, the manipulation, is make your target not trust herself, not trust her own gut, not trust what she thinks is reality."
— Dr. Keith
"The people I see stuck in these relationships are like, I'm a good person who's committed to making this work. I'm conscientious, and I want to make it work."
— Dr. Keith
"Working is a way to turn yourself off. That's honestly maybe one of the better or healthier ways to do it than just a full flame out."
— Dr. Keith
"That's the point I always try to make, is this happens to very, very successful people. And when people talk to me, they go, I must have been a loser because of this. I'm like, Scary Spice isn't a loser."
— Dr. Keith
"Watch how people act. Watch how they treat everybody, not how they treat you…Watch how they treat the staff, watch how they treat the uber driver, watch how they treat other people that don't offer them any."
— Dr. Keith
"I even reached out to one of the women that I think was that I was the other woman too and just said, I would love to talk to you because I think that I might have been the other woman in your life."
— Stephanie
"And so that for those that feel like they can't and feel like they're drowning or in quicksand, like, I'm proof that you can get out."
— Stephanie
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