Kristin M, Snowden, MA, LMFT, a specialist in betrayal trauma, addiction recovery, and couples crisis issues, sits down with Angela Pugh of Addiction Unlimited https://addictionunlimited.com/ to discuss betrayal trauma, addiction recovery, and how the two are related. Angela gets vulnerable sharing her stories of seeing betrayal trauma in her life coaching business while also sharing personal stories of her own betrayal experiences. Kristin and Angela discuss the crazymaking feelings a betrayed partner can experience while living with and loving an addict, or someone having an affair, or struggling with porn issues. Kristin offers insight from her 15 years of experience in this field along with suggested healing paths. They also discuss signs when it might be time to leave the relationship. This is helpful for betrayed partners, people struggling in their life and relationships, recovering addicts, and trauma survivors.
(THIS IS EDUCATIONAL ONLY, THIS IS NOT THERAPY)
Episode Title: Unmasking Deception: Insights on Betrayal Trauma with special guest Kristin Snowden
Episode webpage: https://addictionunlimited.com/287
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Highlights
1:30 Common communication issues in a relationship
3:00 Betrayal trauma, infidelity, and how it shows up when addiction is discovered
3:45 How our culture lacks compassion or understanding of those suffering from betrayal trauma. How someone who's been betrayed struggles with trusting anything and everyone and the feelings of extreme doubt and unsafety due to the betrayal.
7:20 The physical consequences of betrayal trauma
8:11 What causes your brain to record experiences as traumatic
10:41 The neurobiological and relationship consequences of living in an environment with lies, gaslighting, manipulations, etc. Symptoms can look like hypervigilance, feeling emotionally shut down/exhausted, constant confusion and second guessing self, trying to control other parts of your life outside the relationship (like kids)
13:24 Angela shares her personal experience with betrayal and gaslighting
16:00 Betrayed partners can often judge or blame themselves for the betrayal, they often take on the responsibility in the relationship
17:10 Kristin educates on vulnerability, shame, and rebuilding trust
18:30 Kristin explains boundaries, how they help you regain power. How setting boundaries is a vulnerable act.
22:22 Tools for successfully implementing changes in your relationshiphave a plan, create accountability system, use groups like 12 steps, communication skills
25:39 Importance of loves ones of addicts also getting support
26:42 Various treatment options for betrayed partners and those who love addicts
28:00 importance of pushing off couples counseling
33:07 *Why change is so hard and uncomfortable*
33:50 Assessing when its time to leave the relationship
42:41 The important role of fully disclosing lies, affairs, addiction, etc.
44:30 The path toward healing
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