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Dating in 2022 can feel like a lost cause, it can feel exhausting, and worthless when you come up empty handed and broken hearted (again). How can we start to date wiser, smarter, and more fearless without falling into the same traps over again? Matthew Hussey is a relationship guru who has helped thousands of women navigate their feelings and emotional responses to dating.
Between not getting caught up in the stories we create before the first date, to recognizing the warning signs we usually ignore and excuse, to knowing when it’s time to be brave and ask the difficult questions we fear the answers to, Matthew Hussey is brutally honest. He’s like the big brother every girl needs. As an added bonus to get your dating life on the right track, Stephan Speaks another high value relationship guru is breaking down what makes a relationship truly successful and how women can use their natural senses to make better decisions when it comes to dating and choosing partners to start building with.
SHOW NOTES:
He Only Says What You Want To Hear [0:18]
4 Stages of Importance in Relationships [5:39]
Relationship Work and Sunk Costs of Staying [11:25]
Identifying the Truth in What He Says [14:57]
Is He a Liar or an Avoider of the Truth? [21:04]
Having Difficult Conversations with Ease [27:05]
They’re Narcissistic Leaning [34:01]
How to Be Vulnerable with Your Emotional Wounds [39:06]
When Your Feelings May Not Be Valid [46:23]
His Behavior Doesn’t Match His Actions [53:49]
Be Honest About Your Own Actions Too! [57:24]
Timing Is Important But Not A Reason To Keep Waiting [1:11:43]
Bonus: Biggest Dating Problems with Stephan Speaks [1:16:22]
The Value of Connection Over Settling [1:24:20]
Not Maintaining the Person He Fell In Love With [1:37:53]
QUOTES:
“Instead of going in with a curiosity, we go in with a conclusion.” [5:19]
“Part of people’s frustration is that they are really deeply unhappy with what they’re getting, but they haven’t found the courage to go find something else, or to value themselves more.” [12:43]
“You have to assume that who they are today is who they’ll be.” [13:54]
“When a guy on a date says, ‘I’m not looking for anything serious,’ you can trust that he’s either, not looking for anything serious or he thinks that there’s a very good chance that he’s going to end up hurting you...” [17:30]
“When someone is being intentional about dating, they are asking intentional questions.” [19:42]
“Women have to be brave enough to ask questions that they’re afraid of the answers to.” [22:31]
“Be kind in your tone, ruthless in your actions.” [26:17]
“We often scare people off in relationships not because of our wounds, we scare them off with our weapons.” [39:06]
“All of these moments where you have friction are absolutely necessary, they’re wonderful because they give you a moment to put another brick in the house of the relationship.” [1:06:31]
“You have to assume that what someone’s telling you about what they want is the reality.” [1:14:28]
“Staying together does not equate success. A happy fruitful relationship equates success.” Stephan Speaks [1:19:59]
“The reality is, if you don’t know you are then you don’t know who belongs in your life.” Stephan Speaks [1:21:51]
Follow Matthew Hussey:
Website: https://www.howtogettheguy.com/
YouTube: / gettheguyteam
Instagram: / thematthewhussey
Facebook: / coachmatthewhussey
Follow Stephan Speaks:
Website: https://www.stephanspeaks.com/
YouTube: / stephanspeaksvideos
Instagram: / stephanspeaks
Facebook: / stephanspeaksrelationships