Ever wonder why some issues in marriage keep coming up over & over again? They just don’t go away. They don’t get resolved. Sarah and James learn how to talk about perpetual issues using the Gottman Method Dreams Within Conflict exercise. According to John & Julie Gottman, 69% of all issues are perpetual so couples need to learn to talk about them calmly without fighting. Understanding the dreams underneath the issues can make all the difference.

This video is also a great teaching tool that demonstrates how to use the Gottman Dreams Within Conflict intervention using telemental health. Dr. Kim Lampson is a Certified Gottman Therapist who helps the couple listen to and support each other. The video also teaches therapists how to introduce this technique and coach a couple through the process of learning how to communicate understanding, postpone problem solving, and show empathy. Most importantly, both partners learn about honoring each other’s dreams and being sensitive to each other’s enduring vulnerabilities.