Expectation and disappointment track together, and when life doesn't turn out the way we expected it to, this can bring a very real kind of grief. Like any other kind of grief, we can help our clients overcome the feeling of loss caused by life's unexpected turns.

I talk more about how to help our clients deal with the grief and the feeling of loss that comes when life doesn't go as expected, and I offer some insight on how to see the challenges we face in a different light.

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Key points of this video:
00:00 Introduction
00:16 Where do our expectations come from?
00:57 The benefit of softening our expectations
02:31 The classic 'stages of grieving'
03:50 How much grief is too much grief?
04:30 Look at our clients basic emotional needs
05:09 The very real grief of dashed expectations
07:39 Suffering is an inevitable part of life
08:34 We seem to feel happiness when we solve problems