• How to STOP Fighting in your Relation...  

Conflict is inevitable in your Relationship, but we don't have to let it destroy our connection and intimacy together. In order for conflict to actually lead to a deeper trust and closeness together BOTH people need to put in the work of leading with vulnerability and respect and the receiving partner needs to learn how to actually listen to understand someone else's point of view and convey that what they are feeling and experiencing (sadness, pain, hurt, betrayal, neglect) matters to them.

Remember, if we've developed resentment and bitterness and hatred for this person, if we don't trust at all that they will listen to us or care about our feelings, then there's actually no point to even bring up an issue in the first place. Our resentment and mistrust means we haven't established appropriate boundaries in this relationship with this unsafe person. Is that hard? Absolutely it is, it means they might remove whatever shred of connection we have left, but what's our alternative? Continuing to fight with them or stoop to their level and call them names and see them through this negative lens? That's not working for us either.

Once we get to this point, we need to decide we are going to be the best partner we can be and learn a mature healthy way to bring up issues, but we also need to have some hard talks where we talk about standards and expectations for how we want to be treated, because we all deserve kindness and respect and for our feelings to not be dismissed and neglected by those who say they love us.
Counseling helped ME alot with doing that. Good luck out there!

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